Ilene’s Speech from Orli’s Naming Ceremony

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”

― Martin Luther King Jr.A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

Thank you all for coming to help us welcome Orli in to our lives and community.

Over the last week, we’ve been reflecting on how much this little life really wanted to be here in this world. From conception (which is a story, we’ll spare you) to birth (which was VERY fast…. some of you may have heard, we were only at the hospital 10 minutes before she was born), Orli clearly wanted to be here. In a world that seems even more volatile than usual- politically, financially, and environmentally…why would this little life want to be here so badly?

With all of that in mind, we think by naming her Orli, which means “my light”,  and Lev, which means “heart”, is fitting. Orli is named after Ilene’s paternal grandfather, whose name was Norbert, though we called him Opa, which means grandfather in German. Opa, who passed away in 2016, grew up in World War II Germany and had many dark moments in his life, including losing most of his family in the Holocaust, losing his wife at a very young age to cancer and his oldest son to cancer a few years ago. One would think after all of this loss, he would be a person who carried some sort of sadness on his shoulders, but anyone who met Opa would only use positive words to describe him.

While we used the O from Opa for Orli’s name, it is interesting to note, Norbert actually has an element of light to it as well. Norbert in German means “shining from the north” and that’s exactly the attitude Opa brought to life. In his 94 years, his bright blue eyes continued to shine and find happiness whether it was with one of his girlfriends, traveling around the world, listening to classical music or on the tennis court. Orli’s middle name, Lev, also reflects how large a heart Opa had. He was very intune with politics and displayed a lot of passion for current events, education, and life in general.

So why would our little Orli Lev want to join this world so badly? Because she will bring light to an otherwise unstable world just as Opa did. To us, as family, she already has provided perspective and light. This light will continue to reflect and provide warmth to her friends she will meet throughout her life and to this thriving community. And then she will continue to spread her light to the world. We have a feeling Orli will continue to shine her light and do big things. However lights can not shine without fuel. We call on you as a community to help us provide the tools and opportunities to allow our daughters, especially Orli, to continue to feel empowered and shine.

Ilene R Friedman 2/10/2018

Where are Ron and Gloria TODAY?



How are you, WHERE ARE YOU

That conversation seems to repeat with almost every call.  If you asked me 2-3 years ago if I’d be splitting my time between not two, but three houses and retired at 58 I would have thought you crazy, but that’s  been our life the past two years, going between homes in Caton, NY, Emerald Green, Rock Hill, NY and Valencia Shores, Lake Worth, FL.

2016 In Review

In 2016 we learned a new term, snowflakes.   Unlike snowbirds who migrate south for the winter; snowflakes never stay long in one place. And so every few weeks we were sleeping on essentially the same mattress, but at different homes. We’ve managed to work our travels around theater subscriptions and other shows, support group meetings and other events.

We started the year with a cruise to the Costa Rica, Panama and Columbia. But then Gloria starting having severe back pain, which resulted in surgery July 21. However, I still have some inflammation and pain, but just since November, I’ve been able to “walk normally”.   I had a good physical therapist and I am trying to exercise by doing at least one type of exercise (walk, bike, yoga and water weights) every day.

In April, Ilene and Keegan hosted a “we survived one year of parenting” party. Since then Nava has made a wonderful transition to the toddler world. She now has a large vocabulary, both spoken and understood, and she follows instructions and loves to emulate her parents (i.e. trying to do a handstand).

In June, unfortunately, Ron’s dad, Norbert Friedman, passed away. He was 94 ½ and both a holocaust survivor and WWII veteran. See my website for more information and tributes.

In July we had Jessica’s bridal shower and in August Ron and Jonathan jumped out of a “perfectly good” airplane to celebrate Jonathan’s 30th birthday.

Labor Day weekend we celebrated Jonathan and Jessica’s wedding (after 8 years of dating).   It was a wonderful three day event at The Kaaterskill, near Hunter Mountain in the northern Catskills.

Since them we did a week in Portland and Seattle, a 3 day cruise, one week in Phoenix, visiting in NYC and NJ and back and forth between the houses.

We still are looking for people to join us on a Southern Caribbean cruise for 14 days in January, Amsterdam to St Petersburg for 12 days in August and 4 days to Cozumel in December. Call or see my website for details.   And of course to visit us at any of our locations.

Check my website for photos, travel information about past and future trips and my new blog which will have information about living in 55+ communities and more.